Many families took a moment over the Christmas weekend to remember loved ones lost. “I like coming here. It’s peaceful. It’s still hard, even 30 years later,” said Irma Arroyo-Long at St. Stanislaus Cemetery on Scenic Drive on Sunday morning. She and her grown children were visiting the small grave of Daniel J. Arroyo Wood, a preemie who died in 1985 before he was 4 months old. “In my culture, even if you’re dead you’re still part of the family,” Arroyo-Long said. American culture tends to push death away, she said, but dying is part of living, just another season. Families and friends marked the holiday by placing bright flowers, Christmas trees and poinsettia plants.