As a son of Greatest Generation parents, I have seen “parenting” decline over the decades. Parenting was at its best when kids were raised by “housewives,” not nannies, baby sitters, day-care workers, “don’t care workers” or pastors. My parents knew more about raising kids than the early childhood education dribble taught today. Clichés like ‘Spare the rod …’ and ‘Early to bed ...’ represent the wisdom for the ages.
The decline in parenting is an unfortunate consequence of post-WWII. Women became a vital source of domestic labor during the war, and found the double incomes, when the troops returned, a boon to family prosperity. Spending the day with other adults appealed to many mothers. Two tired parents coming home from work are more likely to pick up fast food, then plop down in front of the television while their kids do who knows what on their electronic devices (or do I have that backwards?).
Today’s idea of parenting is be friends with your kids, which is fine after age 16, when their values are set. If you have done a good job by then, your children will not be found hanging out on corners smoking, hopefully just tobacco.
The remark about Fox News in the letter “ ‘Parenting’ provides outdated advice” (Sept. 9) proves the writer does not watch it. His opinion on parenting is, fortunately, just one opinion.
Doug Farrow, Modesto
Traditional values, not the ‘isms’
Re “ ‘Parenting’ provides outdated advice” (Letters, Sept. 9): The writer has it all backwards. What is wrong with America is that we are moving away from traditional Christian values and an American way of life that has proven successful through good times and bad. What the writer wants us to believe is that socialism, liberalism or progressive-ism is the only way to go. In the last 50 to 60 years these “isms” have done more damage to the world and our society than “old school” white men echoing Christian dogma. Much of the damage to America has happened in the the last six years with the assistance of ABC, CBS, NBC, CNN, not to mention The New York Times, The Associated Press, Washington Post, etc. I am an “old school” white man and I watch Fox News because they usually have both sides of the story. I challenge anyone to show where Fox fabricates the news. How is that hope and change working for you?
David Duncan, Modesto
Puppies’ tails wagging the dog
Re “’Parenting’ provides outdated advice” (Letters, Sept. 9): The writer remarked that John Rosemond’s advice about parenting is outdated and that it is the problem with America; quite the opposite! The problem with our youth is that parents are allowing their kids to be in control – somewhat like the tail wagging the dog! Which is precisely why we now have a 10-year-old walking around with a gun selling drugs – unbelievable! The “stuff” to which the writer refers as “not working” is because everyone is too busy caving in to their children’s demands with phones, TVs, computers, etc. Too many adults simply have the intelligence of a paper clip, which they pass on to their offspring. Don’t believe it? Check out the level of delinquency and percentage of school dropouts.
Rae Waltman, Riverbank